At the risk of sounding arrogant and/or mean, why is it that any ole' guy thinks he can approach any female in a bar? I was at a bar over the weekend and I had guys approach me who all had one thing in common - not physically attractive. Not in my opinion anyway. I don't want to sound obsessed with looks and aesthetic attributes but you have to admit that it is a factor, even if it's minute, when meeting people at a bar. I try to be very friendly (which comes naturally!) but friendly and nice can be misconstrued as interest and encouragement. Leading someone on is one of the most selfish things one can do, so I told one particular gentleman after he asked for my phone number, "I don't date short guys". My girlfriend couldn't believe I actually said that to him, but he was being a little too pushy for his own good which called for bluntness!
I can appreciate a good conversation with a random guy, it's the phone number asking thing that gets me. My phone number? I mean what are we really going to do together? You don't want to just talk with me and I don't want to date you, so what is the point? I often hear the saying that you attract people who are similar to you, which leads me to look to the mirror and chant "Candyman Candyman"... Just kidding! - mirror mirror on the wall.... One guy accused me of being shallow. My response - "duh!" BTW, don't you just love that Hyundai 'DUH' commercial? I digress. Well if caring about your physical well being and your potential partner's physical well being is shallow just cart me off now!
My girlfriend says I'll be worried if and when the guys stop approaching me, and for me to take it as a compliment. I do not agree, I'd much rather have no one approach me! I am happy to talk with anyone and I am flattered when I get approached, I mean I'm not all that. Not since 0 became the new 2!